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Ok, so my week has stared off well. Got to hang out with my sisters, saw a Grizzlies game, Ashleigh is back in town. WOO-HOO!!! So things are good. Which is probably what gave me the confidence to “nudge” this guy on eHarmony. Because anyone in their right mind would just be patient and let the fellows come to them. But no, there was this guy that was a “match” for me the first night I signed up. He was the all-star before Maverick came along. And honestly at this point Maverick is BY FAR my favorite even above this dude. Hmm let’s call him Jack. So Jack seems like a neat guy, I think he went to Union. (he’s wearing a Union t-shirt in his pics, I’m no real detective) Anyways, once we were matched I gave him a couple days to send me communication and when he didn’t I sent it to him. And now, a month or so later I’ve never heard anything but he also hasn’t closed the match. I had decided he, along with about 10 other guys who won’t respond to me but haven’t closed the match either, had found someone already on eHarmony and was embarking on his happily ever after with her. But this weekend Jack updated his profile telling me that my theory was indeed wrong and that he’s just ignoring me. haha So I “nudged” him which i think sends some kind of annoying, semi-desparate sounding (ok, maybe more than semi) e-mail “reminding” him he hasn’t responded to me. I did it on a whim, just to kind of see what happens. But now as the day goes on, it seems weirder and weirder. haha I mean do you really want to start something with a guy you have to “nudge” to even get him to talk to you? That will be an awkward topic forever. “haha remember when you wouldn’t even talk to me and I annoyed you through e-mail for like a month and then you did talk to me? hahaha (mocking laugh)” AWKWARD!!! Nudging is lame, as am I for using it. So we’ll chalk the nudge up to experience and see what happens but I think it was my first and last one.
And while we’re on the topic of lame vs. cool my last e-mail to Maverick got increasingly long. You know there’s that appropriate length of e-mail and then it gets crazy? Like when you open a really long e-mail you think to yourself “WHOA, what in the world did they write?” my e-mail crossed that line. Jen told me that it read well, didn’t seem crazy long but still!! So I’m vowing that my next e-mail to him will be short and sweet!!! PRACTICE some self control! lol
And lastly, I’ve just been kind of giving some space to the deal with Gabe. Shorter text message responses etc. Hopefully that will fade away calmly. Think good thoughts
consider yourself updated 
So it’s the first day after my first official internet date. No new news on the actual eharmony site. Boo- I’m sure everybody’s doing grand things with their Friday so it’s understandable.
This morning Gabe texted me, and I’m all for text messaging but there’s definitely a limit that is tolerable and he’s pushing it. So first text was just “had fun last night blah blah” So I agreed and said I was glad it worked out. Then a couple hours later I get a message asking how my day’s going. So I say good and you. blah blah. Then he hit me with the doozy. A new category is therefore formed Things not to say and do while internet dating:(notice this category moves beyond the actual eHarmony site into the “real” world.) So the question he asked was “Do you think I look like my picture online?” First of all, no one asks that question unless they know they DON’T look like their picture. Gabe definitely put up only one,a flattering, kinda far away, black and white picture, that I’m thinking was from a couple years ago. And I’ll be honest, I put up a money shot from a couple summers ago. (see below) BUT I also put up a few other pics that I feel like pretty accurately depict me as I am today. (also see below)
*Note: Janis told me I don’t even look like me in the money shot anymore that my smile isn’t even the same! Thanks Janis,I love the man for his honesty. I’ll assume he means I’ve improved over time
money shot 
So put up whatever you want, it’s your right. But also realize that there are consequences for those decisions. At some point you will hopefully meet the person and we will all have to answer for our “money shot” if you know what I mean. So I felt like it was an unfair question from Gabe and I responded that yes he looked like his pic but he only has one online so I honestly wasn’t exactly sure what to expect. Then he said “haha well that doesn’t sound convincing” What am I supposed to say? So I was aggravated and said I didn’t mean anything by it but why was he asking, did he not think he looked like his picture? He of course didn’t answer and just said he was just curious. Whatev! So the moral of the story is a picture says a thousand words…. you chose if you want at least some of those words to lie. But don’t come to me asking me to justify it or tell you a lie back. It just ain’t right man!!
So I went on my first real date with someone I meet online tonight!!! I know I know, how could I do it without getting it on the blog. Well what had happened was…. Gabe called a couple nights ago and the conversation was fun. So yesterday he texted me all day which was fun in a 7th grade passing notes in class kinda way but made me wonder what kind of guy really is excited about sending me 15 texts in one day. Anyways… we had planned to meet and “do something fun” on Saturday so I thought I had plenty of time to fill you in. But today, out of the blue, and on the day when I was wearing kind of a lame sweater, he texts and says he’ll be in memphis. He needed to get his phone worked on at the apple store, and he asked if I wanted to grab some food. Ashleigh was online so I’m asking her where I should suggest we eat and she says “everyplace will be fun and awkward so it doesn’t matter” haha – oh if she only knew. So he came down town and we went to Hueys, lame sweater and all. He was nice, decent conversation, but he ain’t it. He was an interesting combination of my cousin Chuck and Emily’s not so straight brother David. haha I know that sounds crazy but it was a dead on 50/50 combo! It felt like one of those conversations where both people are just totally honest because in the end you really don’t care what the other person thinks about it because there’s no chemistry. So, easy to talk about stuff, no awkward pauses, because it doesn’t feel like there’s much to lose. After a chicken sandwich, one Budlight, and about an hour of conversation including him telling me he’s not going to be able to make it Saturday because he needs to work on his house that he just put up for sale, we parted ways. HAHA So I survived, got a meal out of the deal, and maybe made a friend. Not sure what to expect next from him. We’ll see.
In other more THRILLING news, Maverick wrote me and it was great. So still really excited about him. Seems like such a great guy. He’s funny, has a lot going on, and just writes great e-mails. love it
Also got a message from the 31 year old guy from Huntsville who works for the “government.” It was crazy short, like Hey, are you from Louisiana? Hope your week has gone well” haha I mean captivating dialogue really. We’ll see.
I’m starting to feel that the eharmony excitement comes in waves. Nothing will happen for a couple of days and then all of a sudden there’s a crazy rush in the internet dating scene. Maybe there’s some kind of pattern that I haven’t figured out yet? Hmmm, am I the internet dater they’re all laughing at behind my back because I’m off of the schedule? Let me know if you’ve ever heard of anything that resembles this scenario!
Ok, so Maverick had e-mailed me and I responded so now just my turn to wait again. haha But his e-mails are fun, feel less like I’m interviewing and more just enjoying conversation. Gold star.
Surprising action from yesterday was this. Ok, so the guy I had been e-mailing from Tupelo, the lawyer who we’ll now call Gabe, just because I want to, I hadn’t heard from in a few days. Our last correspondence, if you will, was his e-mail that included the spanking comment about my birthday to which I responded to him that it was an awkward comment. He had apoligized, confirmed he was joking and then disappeared. I assumed I had freaked him out and that was that. Well I WAS WRONG! haha Last night he called! That’s right, I had given him my digits, don’t judge me. He was great. Really funny, easy to talk to, and set the record straight on the awk comment which I appreciated. So he’s back in the game. haha Seems like a good guy, glad to have him back.
There’s also a new guy who is in “government” which we’ll have to clarify what that means. But he’s 31 and from Huntsville. What are everybody’s thoughts on age differences? Good looking guy and seems really genuine and fun. We’re making our way through the steps and almost to the e-mailing part. So I’ll keep you updated.
It was weird talking to Gabe last night and still wondering if Maverick had written me back. Makes me feel like a cheater. haha But, I’m not so naive to think I’m not also being two-timed. Maybe like 10-timed! we’ll see. In the words of John Carroll, if something works out through eHarmony at some point you’ll have to sit down and have the conversation where you say “Ok, let’s close all our other matches.” HA! love it
So…. after a weekend of no eHarmony action, I GOT AN E-MAIL FROM MAVERICK!!! I think I’m in love. haha I’m ridiculous and I’m excited. He said he was in Texas all weekend hanging out with some friends. He actually responds to things I say and asked interesting questions. Who knew?! I’m going to wait until lunch to write him back but thought I’d at least let people know that things are still moving along. woot!
Got four new matches this morning too. Closed 3 immdiately. I even wrote as my closing statement that “I’m pursuing another relationship” haha!! I mean, I’m e-mailing Maverick back so that counts right?
I’m glad I gave him a cool code name like Maverick because it would suck for it to actually work out with someone and then you have to tell them you gave them the code name Bubba, or “that guy” or something like that.
think good thoughts people
So I heard from Maverick – woo hoo! haha It’s fun, we actually have a mutual friend in a guy jen and I grew up with. So still excited about him.
Still talking to Tupelo guy, unfortunately yesterday he put himself on the things you don’t say on eHarmony with this little ditty. He had asked when my birthday was so I told him and then he said “did you get your spankings this year?” WHAT?! how awkwardly pseudo sexual is that? weirdness. haha
I had another 5 matches today. This is some exhausting dating action. Feels like dating gluttony, it’s kinda ridiculous. haha I’ll keep you updated.
just sayin
#3 on the list for things NOT to say on eharmony:
“I was born with a small cow hoof which extends out of my knee. I’m having it surgically removed in May assuming I can raise enough money. Just kidding “ Seriously?!!! He took the time to type that out?! closed match
Another guy (who is 30 years old, just sayin) went on a long rant that started with the sentence “I am a virgin.” I feel great about that first sentence and not so great about the the judgemental tone of the rest of the sentences. It was out of control. also closed the match
No new word from Maverick. maybe tomorrow
So I met my first guy on eHarmony who kind of gave me butterflies. Is that the lamest thing on Earth? Either I’m totally lame or his game is TIGHT!! haha
Ok, so I metioned him in my last post. He’s 27, cute, from Nashville, and is a pilot for the army. He flies Blackhawk helicopters! How cool is that? He loves to travel and is involved in all kinds of fun things. He went to Wheaton. He’s sent me two e-mails and so far I’m a huge fan. We’ll call him Maverick, because it’s my blog and therefore i get to pick the code names. I’m really excited about this one.
I’m also still e-mailing with the guy from Tupelo. He’s such a nice guy. I feel like I need to meet him. He seems sweet but I don’t know if he has enough bite. You know? I think hearing him talk would tell me a lot. We’ll see.
I’m up to like 19 matches right now which is crazy. Of course most of them are sitting in my inbox with something like “waiting for his answers” or “waiting for him to start open communication” written by their names. Basically a bunch of waiting. But right now I’m thrilled about Maverick, haha (what a great code name) so that’s fun.
Weird coincidence: I’ve had 6 matches named Matthew. No other name has been repeated at all. weird.
And another thing not to DO on eharmony: When you post pictures of yourself, crop out the beautiful girl that you have your arm around, or tell us it’s your sister/buddy’s wife/or a family friend.
Stay tuned…
Things are booming with eHarmony. So starting on Friday I started getting matches from places outside of Memphis.?? Think Nashville, Tupelo, Birmingham and such. It’s crazy! There are new matches everytime I sign on. It’s madness. Ok, first, I haven’t heard from Pete in about a week- boo Pete. And Guy #2 is supposed to be e-mailing me at some point to start open communication. Haven’t heard from him in a couple days either. Maybe he’s busy, out of town, or scared of “open communication” haha
As far as the new guys, there’s a guy from Tupelo who messaged me first! That’s the first guy to actually initiate! gold star for him. Well we went through all the eHarmony steps yesterday and have sent a few e-mails back and forth. woo-hoo! He’s a lawyer, originally from Virgina, and he’s 28. He seems fun. It’s kind of hard to tell. We’ll see. I’m excited to at least be talking to someone.
There are a few other guys that seem like a lot of fun. None of which have I actually made contact with but that’s just details right? One guy is from Birmingham, really cute, law school/Army officer. But he’s 6′5″ tall!!! Is that stupid? What are your thoughts on insane height differences?
There’s another military officer- maybe it’s the uniform. He’s from Nashville, he’s 27 and so cute! I’m hoping to actually hear from a couple of these guys.
And time for another installment of Things NOT to say on eHarmony: One of the new matches who’s pretty cute and except for what I’m about to say seems like a good guy. From the beginning of his profile he keeps mentioning that he “loves talking on IM (aol instant messenger) to “tummyz.” So after reading that a couple times I got aggravated thinking, who is tummyz and why do you keep bringing that up weirdo? At the end of the profile he says “I am actually tummyz if you want to chat on IM for free” ok, First of All – that whole thing was weird, not clever. Second of all WHY oh WHY is your screenname tummyz? I closed the match
So, after my rant on patience yesterday guess what happened? Guy #2 sent me the answers to my 2nd questions and then he asked me three as well. His answers were fun and I’m excited to know more. Good job Guy #2. The questions he asked me were: 1. Tell me about the most adventurous thing you did in the past year. So I answered hiking to Macchu Picchu for that one 2. What do you like to do on a day off? I said – something active, hang with friends- maybe cookout- see some live music. Now imagine all these answers with more personality thrown in there. You’re getting the CliffNotes. If you want verbatim I’ll get it to you later. Third question he asked was What are you looking for in a relationship? I said a great friendship, someone who challenges me, supports me, makes me laugh. So do I sound like someone who’s fun? haha
So NOW I have to wait (surprise surprise) for him to read the warning message from Dr.Warren who is the eHarmony guru and then he’ll send me the first “open communication” slash e-mail. WOO!!! No eHarmony rules, no multiple choice, just regular talking slash typing to each other. Such freedom! ha We’ll see if we can handle it.
No news from anyone else but we’ll see how today goes.
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